Conflict

In class we have been talking about conflict and what kind of conflicts we encounter and how we resolve those conflicts in our own lives. When I was asked in class what types of conflict I encountered growing up with my siblings I really couldn't think of any because my sister and I really never fought much at all. But I have definitely dealt with alot of conflict and I feel that the way my family tried to resolve conflict was not always the best.
I grew up in a small town on a farm in northern Indiana. Growing up on a farm taught me work ethic and also taught me how to work in a team. As many know living and working on a farm is not a one man job, many times you have to work together to get a job done and done right! As we also spoke about in class when we work together with others there are always going to be some conflict. I remember many times when my whole family would be baling hay in the field during the summer and it was getting late and we had to hurry and work together in order to get the job done efficiently as possible because it was getting too dark or it was going to rain that night. But many times my family would disagree on how things should be accomplished, so the conflict began with the disagreement. One of the only ways my family really ever resolved these conflicts was to yell. I have learned through other experiences in my life that yelling is not the best way to resolve a conflict, because this just makes everyone even more unhappy. Both of my parents were very good at yelling the way they thought things should be done on the farm when there was a disagreement. But really the yelling was just unnecessary, there are ways to get the point across of how things should be solved by speaking at a normal volume.
My family has gotten much better at resolving conflicts by simply talking about the issue instead of yelling about the issue after talking about how yelling causes doesn't solve conflict very well. I hope that when I have my own family I will be able to show them how to solve conflicts through talking about issues rather than yelling the issues.

Amanda Wise